I'm trying to convince Erich we should just elope, and then have some huge party (or several smaller parties) for our families. Mainly cause I am just sick of having to tell people, "No, no date set yet....waiting on several factors." And well, I really want to be married to him.
I mean, in all honesty, the ONLY thing we are waiting on at this point is for my mother to be accepting of the idea of me being married. Erich's family is very supportive, my dad and his family are all very supportive as well...it's just my mom who seems to think that if we get married now, we'll be divorced in a few years.
I just don't think it's very fair that not only am I having to put things on hold, but Erich is as well, just because my mom has her own idea of when is a proper age to marry.
This is getting so frustrating. we DID have a date in mind, ages ago when we first got engaged (July 30, if anyone cares), but obviously that's not happening. The fact that I have no idea when we actually will get married seriously bums me out. I mean I know we're not going to fall apart and split up or anything, we have a very strong relationship...but I want to be able to call him my husband already. And well, the biological clock be tickin'...I want babies. Maybe not in the next couple of years, but definitely in the next five years. And at the rate we're going (let me rephrase: at the rate my mother is going, learning to accept the fact that we are getting married), I'll be fifty before I have kids. Ugh.
I know that I don't have all the facts, but why does it matter if your mom thinks you're not ready? I mean, if you get married, she'll get over it eventually. You'll prove her wrong with time and I doubt that she'd disown you for getting married. I don't think that Curtis's parents were very happy that we were getting married so young, but they quickly got over it. Granted, we were in a notably different situation with me being knocked up. :-P
ReplyDeleteAlso, I don't know what date you were planning on, but know that weddings can be done fast. We planned ours in a month. There weren't some of the fancy stuff there, but we didn't want there to be. We had probably about 50 people and everything looked great (and we did it cheap too because I think it's stupid how expensive weddings can be). If I could do it again, I would only change two things--I would want it outside (not exactly an option in October) and I would want the judge to actually show up!